Ugh, I have been browsing this board for quite some time, but more of a lurker than anything else.
I was sure hoping to post on the "success stories" thread, for ahwile it looked like I could.
We got 13 mature eggs sharing with 1 other. On day 3 where were enough growing that they pushed to Day 5. One Day 5 the doctor said the cycle was "not great" and there were 3 early blastocysts to choose from.
We transferred 1 Day 5 DE embryo October 4, got my BFP and things were going well. But then at my 16 week regular OB checkup this week, there was not growth or heartbeat, it looked like baby had passed 2 weeks earlier. I had to have a D&C on Thursday.
This was our 1st DE cycle, after 3 IUI, 3 IVF, 1 FET. The Dr said it was not a "great cycle" at transfer. The embryos were not great (my own egg ones from prior cycles had better "grades" than these.) But it was good enough that he pushed us to only transfer 1 due to it being a 28 year old donor. How I wish I had fought that harder now. He said that anything else good would be frozen anyways. Nothing made it to freeze.
So here were are back at square 1. We paid for "full shared risk" so if we try again we do not have to pay anything (full shared risk means that even that donor fee is included if we need an new donor, which we would need since nothing made it to freeze).
Feeling a little lost right now any guidance/suggestions/experience to share?
RJ