We have been trying non-stop for 6 years to have our last child. We have done everything except IVF (docs think it's a no-go given my age of 46 and poor AMH, even though I have good FSH), and I am really, really, really tired. I'm talking medically and holistically. Everything. We've had one MMC and at least 2 chemicals. Our older two kids (11 and 6) were both naturally conceived, as was the miscarriage in 2013; we have had ZERO results from any medical intervention. We are starting to look into donor eggs (frozen, because I don't want a bunch, and I can't afford a fresh cycle).
My question is, for those of you who chose donor eggs AND you already had genetic children, how did you deal with that? How did you choose? Was it hard? Was the donor thing even an issue? I'm worried the DE child might feel "different" from his brother and sister, or it might always be an issue in the family. I am new to this, so I'm looking for those who've paved the way. It's tough because I don't get any support since I already have children. It's hard to have this conversation with my non-infertile friends, because they just say "you already have kids! What are you doing?" Sigh. It makes this decision SO much harder.
Thanks in advance.