I'm currently pregnant with twins via donor eggs. I'm so happy to be pregnant! I'm Indian and my husband is Black/Hispanic. Finding an Indian donor was very difficult. Actually finding a donor of color in general was difficult so my husband and I decided to use a Caucasian donor and tried to find someone with darker features. I'm wondering if anyone is in a similar situation. And, if so are you planning to share with family, friends, acquaintenances. We've shared with our immediate family and just a few close friends. But, I feel like when the babies are born there are going to be some obvious physcial differences between me and them. I'm conflicted on how to handle this. I thought I'd resolved these feelings prior to starting the cycle but have found as the pregnancy progresses, feeling very anxious about how to handle everything. Sharing with close family and friends makes sense to me. But, I guess I'm trying to figure out how large should the cirlce of those in the know be? How do I share? I want to be thoughtful about how I do this because I know once we share it's out there and we can't take it back. Any experiences? I have seen a therapist but feel like hearing about first hand experiences would be helpful. Thanks!!!
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