Long time lurker, first time poster. In short, my DH and I have been trying to become parents via ED for over two years now. Finding donors of my ethnicity has been challenging and I went on a quest to find every donor database I could. We found an egg donor we loved and had our doctor review her available records (four cycles) but when we went to see if we could move forward, she was unavailable suddenly and it was heart breaking. I saw her on more and more databases after that and began to notice that she claimed to have never done any of those four cycles and instead had two cycles. Another database mentioned another cycle, another mentioned another, etc. I started noticing all these major discrepancies and reached out to the agencies and come to find out she has done 10 different cycles but in order to keep donating she conceals this information to each agency she has signed up with. As an IP I would be furious if a donor lied and concealed cycle information like this, even after she had already donated to us. I now see that she has matched again in two other agencies...should I reach out to them to inform them of what I found in regards to her plethora of past cycles? I am doubting that these two agencies even know she's matched somewhere else right now too. This whole thing has just been so heart breaking because we had emotionally invested in this rare ethnic donor only to find out she was stocking up on cycles and perhaps our measly $10k comp wasn't high enough.
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