I'm having trouble making a decision so would love thoughts from this group.
We've been looking constantly at our clinic's in house database for 3 weeks now and having a hard time finding a donor who fits our criteria.
We found someone yesterday who I felt really good about - she looks like she could be my cousin, has good medical history, seems smart/intellectually curious, and kind, and she's a repeat donor and 26.
I was really excited to move forward but our doctor reviewed the stats from her previous cycle with us last night and had some concerns:
It was a shared cycle earlier this year and she produced only 11 eggs. One couple got 6 eggs, had 2 day 5 embryos, first transfer got them pregnant with one frosty. Second couple got 5 eggs, 2 day 5 embryos, and got pregnant on first transfer with 1 frosty.
We would not do a shared cycle so we would get all of the embryos but we really want genetic siblings. Our doctor thinks she was understimmed and he could probably get her to produce more this time but there's no guarantee and I get the sense that he thinks we should hold out for a repeat donor who's already produced closer to 20 eggs + more embryos if we want to guarantee sibs.
I don't want to give up hope for sibs but we've been having a really hard time finding people we feel good about and I worry if I let her go I'll regret it. Trying not to be picky but my husband and I both have light eyes (mine green, his blue) so trying to find a light eyed + repeat donor already eliminates a lot of options for us.
Do I just go for it and hope for the best or should I try and be more patient?