Ok ... So - my baby conceived with donor eggs is already here. We haven't told anyone that we used DE. I have heard numerous times, "you can't untell something." So, I guess that is where we are right now. There is nothing to be "untold," only a story to be told.... at some point. My husband and I have agreed we are going to tell our son all along, so there are no surprises at any point in his life. However, now that he is here, I don't want to tell him. I just don't... and that is what it comes down to. Our rationale for telling him is that we don't want him to ever find out and resent us for lying, or any of the other emotions and feelings he could potentially feel if he found out that we were not honest with him. If I knew with 100% surety that he would never find out, I would never tell him, but since that can't be guaranteed, I can't take the chance. I am not trying to start an argument or insult anyone... but I want to genuinely know, what if you can't keep it a secret? What if your child does find out later in life? If you have made the decision to keep it a secret, is there a contingency plan in place should your child find out? These questions are coming from a place in me that does not want to tell him anymore and see if it is possible to avoid it, though if they sound antagonistic, I apologize. TIA
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