Hi Ladies,
I'm so frustrated right now. It has taken me.a year and a half to finally get things together to get the money for this. I turned 45 in the mean time. I really wanted to be pregnant before 45. Now that I am ready I can't seem to secure a donor.
My #1 favorite, I've been told so many things by the agency it just seems weird. I've been asking about her since February. They even had me put a 3 week hold on her back in March but I didn't have the money yet. I was surprised to see she was still on their site. So I inquired a lil over a week ago. They told me 2 other couples are looking at her. So I thought oh I won't have a chance then. Then she tells me she just finished a cycle. And those couples were waiting on results. Why didn't she even tell me she was cycling back in Feb or March? Then a few days later I asked how her cycle went and if I can secure her. She tells me that she needs to check with her work to get some time off to cycle again. And I thought it was weird she didn't even mention those other 2 couples anymore. So I didn't ask. Then today she tells me she is checking with her to see when she can start. She tells me I can secure her if I want. Then she emails me that the donor doesn't want to cycle again til Jan 2016 because she will owe too much in taxes if she gets check this year. Well of course I'm not waiting til January. I was so disappointed. But then I thought--how did she go from checking with her work to not even wanting to cycle til next year? She really was the best donor I saw on that site. Proven and all the things I want.
So then she tells me the other girl I asked about is available. I'm just at a crossroads. I love the way this other girl looks and she seems super healthy. She has 3 kids, youngest is 3. She is 29. Not proven.
I just want the odds stacked in my favor. I won't be able to afford another fresh cycle if this doesn't work out. I can afford this and an FET if necessary but not another fresh. I don't know if I'm being to picky or what.
There is another donor at another agency in the same city and she is perfect except 1 thing. She has a prominent facial structure feature that bothers me. And I worry of my child having it. Not that she unattractive. It's just that neither my.DH or I have this and it would appear odd I think.
I don't know what to do guys. I want to get moving in this. I'm ready. I've checked into other agencies out of state and they are.running about 5k more for their donors. And charging about as much as my RE charges to do the cycle. So I've pretty much decided to use one of these 2 local agencies.
Over the past several months I've seen 2 other great ones pass by. But now that I'm ready I'm stuck.
Sorry to be so frantic. I've been waiting a long time to have a baby. Been dealing with Inertility for 30 years and I don't want to wait one more week!!!
Any advice is so appreciated.
I'm so frustrated right now. It has taken me.a year and a half to finally get things together to get the money for this. I turned 45 in the mean time. I really wanted to be pregnant before 45. Now that I am ready I can't seem to secure a donor.
My #1 favorite, I've been told so many things by the agency it just seems weird. I've been asking about her since February. They even had me put a 3 week hold on her back in March but I didn't have the money yet. I was surprised to see she was still on their site. So I inquired a lil over a week ago. They told me 2 other couples are looking at her. So I thought oh I won't have a chance then. Then she tells me she just finished a cycle. And those couples were waiting on results. Why didn't she even tell me she was cycling back in Feb or March? Then a few days later I asked how her cycle went and if I can secure her. She tells me that she needs to check with her work to get some time off to cycle again. And I thought it was weird she didn't even mention those other 2 couples anymore. So I didn't ask. Then today she tells me she is checking with her to see when she can start. She tells me I can secure her if I want. Then she emails me that the donor doesn't want to cycle again til Jan 2016 because she will owe too much in taxes if she gets check this year. Well of course I'm not waiting til January. I was so disappointed. But then I thought--how did she go from checking with her work to not even wanting to cycle til next year? She really was the best donor I saw on that site. Proven and all the things I want.
So then she tells me the other girl I asked about is available. I'm just at a crossroads. I love the way this other girl looks and she seems super healthy. She has 3 kids, youngest is 3. She is 29. Not proven.
I just want the odds stacked in my favor. I won't be able to afford another fresh cycle if this doesn't work out. I can afford this and an FET if necessary but not another fresh. I don't know if I'm being to picky or what.
There is another donor at another agency in the same city and she is perfect except 1 thing. She has a prominent facial structure feature that bothers me. And I worry of my child having it. Not that she unattractive. It's just that neither my.DH or I have this and it would appear odd I think.
I don't know what to do guys. I want to get moving in this. I'm ready. I've checked into other agencies out of state and they are.running about 5k more for their donors. And charging about as much as my RE charges to do the cycle. So I've pretty much decided to use one of these 2 local agencies.
Over the past several months I've seen 2 other great ones pass by. But now that I'm ready I'm stuck.
Sorry to be so frantic. I've been waiting a long time to have a baby. Been dealing with Inertility for 30 years and I don't want to wait one more week!!!
Any advice is so appreciated.